Ten things you can say to a woman and get away with. (And she would love you for it)

14 Jan

According to this article, there are ten common statements that will get you into trouble with women no matter what.

  • “You’re over-reacting.”
  • “You’re not being logical.”
  • “Who put that idea in your head, your mother?”
  • “That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.”
  • “The other guys’ wives are cool with it.”
  • “After everything that I’ve done for you?!”
  • “You’ll feel differently tomorrow.”
  • “You always (fill in the blank).” “You never (fill in the blank).”
  • “You didn’t used to be this way.”
  • “You’re missing the point.”

Seriously? Is this guy for real?

The reason why women can’t find any good men these days is not that all men like to say bone-headed things like that. (If a woman could find a good man, she wouldn’t care if he told her a bone-headed thing now and then.) The problem that more women are facing is their frustration with the man who goes so far out of his way to make sure he never pisses off a female, ever.

There is no rule saying you can’t say something to a woman when it’s the truth. (Scroll down the article and see the hilarious response by “Enoch J.”) There’s no sense in trading honesty and spontaneity when interacting with a woman in exchange for a little less excitement. Many men make the mistake of thinking that avoiding conflict is the same as keeping a woman’s attention. It’s not. It’s the opposite, in fact. Women hate men who can’t risk or face confrontation. If a man can’t speak his mind without worrying about what a woman or others would think of him, where on earth can he lead a relationship once he’s in it?

The corollary is that women love it when you call them out on their drama. “I would love it if a man tells me I’m not logical!” said my friend Phoebe when I sent her this article. “And I’m over-reacting! I do that all the time!”

A far worse mistake than saying the wrong thing to a woman is for a man to worry about it. If you think there’s some things you should never say, you’re probably taking your words way too seriously. (This goes double for the article’s author–a man–for advising men to follow his example.) Yes: just as it’s possible to take one’s words too carelessly, it’s also possible to take one’s  words too seriously. And the latter is more probable than the latter, I’d argue, in this confrontation-avoiding culture we live in.

You can literally say anything to a woman and get away with it, if you know how to say it. It’s all in the delivery. For example, any words delivered with a wink and a grin can be fun. You can turn any thing into teasing or  innuendo.

Even any of the lines above.

Imagine a different context. A wink. A well-timed grin. “You’ll feel differently tomorrow.” Imagine the woman laughing and hitting you playfully on the arm.

It’s all about the delivery. It’s all about your imagination. It’s all about the intention behind your words.

Just as women can sense anxiety, uneasiness or hostility in men, they will respond to you when they sense your attraction and desire under your words.

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5 Responses to “Ten things you can say to a woman and get away with. (And she would love you for it)”

  1. He-girl January 14, 2011 at 11:58 am #

    “Women hate men who can’t risk or face confrontation. If a man can’t speak his mind without worrying about what a woman or others would think of him, where on earth can he lead a relationship once he’s in it?”

    Amen!!

  2. Phoebe January 14, 2011 at 1:55 pm #

    Yes! I love it when a man tells me i’m not logical. At least that means he is listening to me!

    Thanks for writing this, dear.

    ;D *with tears in my eyes*

    • Wyck January 14, 2011 at 4:45 pm #

      Thank you people, but I really need more men to read this blog. T_T

      • Phoebe January 14, 2011 at 7:48 pm #

        There are lots of men. You need to get yourself out there! lol.

      • Wyck January 18, 2011 at 3:47 pm #

        Right back at you!

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