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Ten things you can say to a woman and get away with. (And she would love you for it)

14 Jan

According to this article, there are ten common statements that will get you into trouble with women no matter what.

  • “You’re over-reacting.”
  • “You’re not being logical.”
  • “Who put that idea in your head, your mother?”
  • “That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.”
  • “The other guys’ wives are cool with it.”
  • “After everything that I’ve done for you?!”
  • “You’ll feel differently tomorrow.”
  • “You always (fill in the blank).” “You never (fill in the blank).”
  • “You didn’t used to be this way.”
  • “You’re missing the point.”

Seriously? Is this guy for real? Continue reading

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Forget the ladder theory

15 Dec

For those who are unfamiliar with the “ladder theory”, it’s a common explanation for why it is difficult to turn a friendship into a romance. Here’s how it goes:

Supposedly, every woman has two ‘ladders’ for men to climb–one to advance in friendship, another to advance in a romance. The ladder metaphor stems from the idea that advancing as a friend and as a romantic interest is mutually exclusive: someone who’s half-way up the friendship ladder will not be able to cross over into a romance without first going down or, more often than not, taking a nasty fall. Once you’re established in the girl’s mind in the “friend” category, you’re pretty much stuck. Hence the exclusively male lament, “What do you mean, I’m important to you, but you won’t go out with me?”

To me, guys who subscribe to the ladder theory lack imagination in their relationships. For these guys, relationships with women exist in the binary: either a girlfriend, or a friend. It doesn’t occur to them that many couples start out as friends, and good romantic partners are in fact good friends as well. Continue reading