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No two dates are the same

9 Sep

Have you ever wondered why dating is such a chore?

You’re probably faced one of these two problems:

You’re running out of places to go. You’ve already seen all the good movies, eaten at all the nice restaurants you know of. This is a happy problem: It means you have someone to go out with.

The other problem is a more troublesome one: you can’t get women interested enough to go out on a first date. And if one did get interested, you’ve no idea how to get to agree to a second date.  You wish you had a plan that would guarantee a second or third date. A technique that would definitely impress the ladies. Continue reading

Never backpedal

8 Aug

I just received a brand new credit card in the mail. I didn’t apply for it. The payment card company welcomed me into their membership, telling me I had been “prequalified”, i.e. they had just given me the opportunity to try their service, while saving me the trouble of actually applying for it.

This notion of “prequalifying” is intriguing. It tries to flatter me (“Hey, you qualify for our exclusive membership!”) but it also shoves something down my throat that I didn’t ask for.

In fact, it intrigues me so much that I think I will be cancelling the card tomorrow.

Just as intriguing as “prequalification” is the practice of “pre-rejection”, which men here seem to like to foist on the women they date.

What’s “pre-rejection”? Continue reading

Help for the needy

11 Jul
Animals do it better.

Animals do it better.

“When interacting with people, don’t focus so much on what that person can do for you. Instead, think about what you might be able to do for them.

“It’s the difference between coming to someone with hat in hand, and coming to them with a helping hand.”

I recently came across these words on the web. While I can’t trace their exact origin, I agree with it wholeheartedly.

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Two tales, three children and a canned soda

21 Jan

My recent trip to Cambodia led to an interesting observation about needs versus neediness.

I had just spent a long day visiting the Angkor National museum (expensive place it was), and took a tuk-tuk back to the Old Market to have a bite and figure out where to go next. On arrival, I bought two cans of drinks at a corner stall, one to quench my thirst and the other, an exotic-looking energy drink I’d never seen before and wanted to bring back home to try. I crossed the busy dirt road towards the Siem Reap river, and settled at a bench near the so-called Old Market Bridge.

Not long after I sat down, a boy and a girl, both appearing to be of age seven or eight, came up to me. The boy led the approach, the girl trailing behind.

I thought they looked like child beggars. Continue reading

So what if she finds out that you like her?

12 Nov

This is the way many guys think:

“I must get the girl to like me first, and then it is safe to let her know that I like her.

“Because it’s very possible that if she finds out, she will become uncomfortable. And if the liking is not mutual, she’s likely to be offended. And I will have lost the opportunity.”

If this is the way you think, please stop. This is juvenile thinking. You’re not a 12-year-old having a crush on the cute girl in the next class.

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